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What is the average length of a penis? Hard and soft. Does size have anything to do with pleasing women?
Average erect size is between 5 and 6 inches in length and between 4 and 5 inches in girth. Average length of a flaccid penis is about 3 and a half inches. And no, there is no evidence that women prefer large penises. However there IS research stablishing the fact that women don't care how big a penis is.
Average erect size is between 5 and 6 inches in length and between 4 and 5 inches in girth. Average length of a flaccid penis is about 3 and a half inches. And no, there is no evidence that women prefer large penises. However there IS research stablishing the fact that women don't care how big a penis is.
I have heard that too much masturbating can cause a loss of eye sight and could cause mental illness. Is there any truth to this?
A serious question demands a serious answer... Lucky for us, the myths of masturbation, which can be traced to the publication of "Onana" by Tissot in France in the 1760's, have been dispelled and discounted since the early 1900's, though superstitions can endure for centuries.
Blindness, insanity, epilepsy, laziness - these are some of the fears that accompanied the thought of masturbation. Our present-day sex researchers, therapists and physicians have a different slant on the 'm' word, now referred to in some circles as 'self-pleasuring.' In fact, masturbation is widely recognized as a positive activity. A man or woman can relieve stress and tension, get to know themselves and what pleases them sexually, perform when it's convenient and private, is the ultimate safe sex, AND it feels good!
The only danger with masturbation occurs when people take physical risks for a thrill (have you ever heard of men using a vacuum cleaner?) or if, like any behavior, it becomes a compulsion that takes over your life.
All in all, masturbation is a healthy and safe sexual activity, enjoyed by 97% of men and 76% of women undergraduates at IU!
A serious question demands a serious answer... Lucky for us, the myths of masturbation, which can be traced to the publication of "Onana" by Tissot in France in the 1760's, have been dispelled and discounted since the early 1900's, though superstitions can endure for centuries.
Blindness, insanity, epilepsy, laziness -
The only danger with masturbation occurs when people take physical risks for a thrill (have you ever heard of men using a vacuum cleaner?) or if, like any behavior, it becomes a compulsion that takes over your life.
All in all, masturbation is a healthy and safe sexual activity, enjoyed by 97% of men and 76% of women undergraduates at IU!
What does it mean if a man's penis is crooked rather than completely straight when it is erect? Is this a common problem for men?
A "crooked" or "curvy" penis is actually quite common, but it is definitely not a problem. When asked about the angle and shape of their penis, about 20% of men said it points straight out from the body when erect, 5% said it points down, and the rest said it points upward. Furthermore 30% of men said their penis aims to the left and about 6% reported that it curves to the right.
The curve is, in most cases, perfectly normal. If, however, sexual penetration is difficult or if having an erection is painful, then a urologist should be consulted. There is a rare medical condition called Peyronie's Disease that normally affects men between the ages of 40 and 60. This disease is characterized by a relatively sudden curvature of the penis. Scientists know relatively little about the causes of this disease--but it is not sexually transmitted. For the most part, however, a curvy penis does not represent a medical problem.
Penises come in a multitude of sizes, shapes, and curvatures. Rather than being a problem, this variation makes life interesting. (In fact, the curve and shape of a penis can actually enhance sexual pleasure for the partner during intercourse!)
A "crooked" or "curvy" penis is actually quite common, but it is definitely not a problem. When asked about the angle and shape of their penis, about 20% of men said it points straight out from the body when erect, 5% said it points down, and the rest said it points upward. Furthermore 30% of men said their penis aims to the left and about 6% reported that it curves to the right.
The curve is, in most cases, perfectly normal. If, however, sexual penetration is difficult or if having an erection is painful, then a urologist should be consulted. There is a rare medical condition called Peyronie's Disease that normally affects men between the ages of 40 and 60. This disease is characterized by a relatively sudden curvature of the penis. Scientists know relatively little about the causes of this disease-
Penises come in a multitude of sizes, shapes, and curvatures. Rather than being a problem, this variation makes life interesting. (In fact, the curve and shape of a penis can actually enhance sexual pleasure for the partner during intercourse!)
When i Have erections my penis is bent slightly to the left and when i wee i have to face to the left because the wee always comes out to the right.
It's actually very common for the penis to have some sort of bend to it - some bend to the left, others to the right, some a bit up, some a bit down, etc.
That said, if this has changed over time or you have painful erections or you have another reason to believe something may be wrong (e.g. you notice discomfort, scar tissue or you have suffered some trauma during sex, athletics or something else), you might want to make an appointment with a urologist. Sometimes things happen (like an injury), causing damage to the penis.
have been dating my present girlfriend for over 5 months now and I still have trouble lasting during sex. I have not had this problem so severe in the past, with 2 other girlfriends. I was wondering if you know anything I could do to help improve my stamina. I would appreciate any suggestions you may have to offer.
Lack of control, or premature ejaculation, is a very common problem. Fortunately, it's also very treatable. The objective is to learn how to reach a state of arousal (being erect, touched, having intercourse) but delaying the "inevitable." In fact, sex therapists call the point of no return, that moment when your reflexes take over and you know you're going to ejaculate, the "point of inevitability." So how can you have sexual activity yet hold off that rush toward completion? We suggest what's known as the stop-start method. This is basically practicing control by recognizing when you are aroused, but not yet at "the point," and backing off, then resuming sexual activity.
I don't know how comfortable you are talking about this with your girlfriend, but it would sure be helpful if you can involve her in this 'training.' I suggest that you first try masturbating on your own, backing off when you are moderately aroused but not at 'the point,' then resuming. Try to make your masturbation session last for 10 or 15 minutes. You may also find that masturbating on your own will, in general, prolong your time with your partner.
After you have tried the stop-start on your own, try it several times with your girlfriend. The amount of time that you pause when you stop is up to you - you don't want to lose your erection, but you do want to lessen some of the arousal or tension before beginning again. Experiment.
Finally, I'm not sure why this is happening with this girlfriend and not the others. Make sure that you two are communicating with each other. Does she see this as a problem, too, or do you just assume she does? Sometimes just discussing your concerns with your partner can have a positive effect on your sex life together.
That said, if this has changed over time or you have painful erections or you have another reason to believe something may be wrong (e.g. you notice discomfort, scar tissue or you have suffered some trauma during sex, athletics or something else), you might want to make an appointment with a urologist. Sometimes things happen (like an injury), causing damage to the penis.
Lack of control, or premature ejaculation, is a very common problem. Fortunately, it's also very treatable. The objective is to learn how to reach a state of arousal (being erect, touched, having intercourse) but delaying the "inevitable." In fact, sex therapists call the point of no return, that moment when your reflexes take over and you know you're going to ejaculate, the "point of inevitability." So how can you have sexual activity yet hold off that rush toward completion? We suggest what's known as the stop-
I don't know how comfortable you are talking about this with your girlfriend, but it would sure be helpful if you can involve her in this 'training.' I suggest that you first try masturbating on your own, backing off when you are moderately aroused but not at 'the point,' then resuming. Try to make your masturbation session last for 10 or 15 minutes. You may also find that masturbating on your own will, in general, prolong your time with your partner.
After you have tried the stop-
Finally, I'm not sure why this is happening with this girlfriend and not the others. Make sure that you two are communicating with each other. Does she see this as a problem, too, or do you just assume she does? Sometimes just discussing your concerns with your partner can have a positive effect on your sex life together.
I have read about premature ejaculation but lately I have been having problems ejaculating as soon as I get inside the vagina. This is causing big problems and I need to get it resolved.
The best way to solve premture ejaculation is with systematic desensitization where you practice holding off on orgasm. Here are two effective ways to go about it: Every man has a "point of no return" after which he cannot avoid ejaculation. During your partner's caressing of your penis or during masturbation, you may feel yourself getting aroused to such a degree that you can predict that you will ejaculate shortly.
Aim to stop stimulation at a stage just short of the point of no return and allow your arousal level to subside slightly (say for half-a-minute) and then return to being caressed and repeat the process of stopping when you feel yourself near the point of inevitable ejaculation again. The difficulty at first is knowing when to ask your partner to stop.
This is a learning process which every male has to undertake at some stage in his life and it is never too late to learn control of ejaculation. It will, however, take time and practice. Once your anxiety level begins to fall and your confidence builds up, you should find an increasing ability to control your ejaculation and once a slight improvement occurs your confidence will increase and anxiety will fall even more.
If you have difficulty in gaining control using this method (remember it will take time because you are changing what is probably a long-established pattern) then you can try the squeeze technique, which means that just before the point of no return you stop stimulation of the penis and either you or your partner grasps the tip of the penis between fingers and thumb at the point of attachment of the foreskin and squeezes firmly for 10 seconds or so. This reduces the reflex ejaculation response (and possibly the erection too) in the same way that biting your lip stops a sneeze. You can then resume stimulation and repeat the process if necessary.
The best way to solve premture ejaculation is with systematic desensitization where you practice holding off on orgasm. Here are two effective ways to go about it: Every man has a "point of no return" after which he cannot avoid ejaculation. During your partner's caressing of your penis or during masturbation, you may feel yourself getting aroused to such a degree that you can predict that you will ejaculate shortly.
Aim to stop stimulation at a stage just short of the point of no return and allow your arousal level to subside slightly (say for half-
This is a learning process which every male has to undertake at some stage in his life and it is never too late to learn control of ejaculation. It will, however, take time and practice. Once your anxiety level begins to fall and your confidence builds up, you should find an increasing ability to control your ejaculation and once a slight improvement occurs your confidence will increase and anxiety will fall even more.
If you have difficulty in gaining control using this method (remember it will take time because you are changing what is probably a long-
am a 22-year-old male who quit masturbating almost a year ago and am not sexually active. I am experiencing something I don't understand. I will be sitting in class and all of a sudden, the orgasm sensation will come over me and I will ejaculate. It's a messy experience. All of this happens while I am not aroused, my penis is not erect and is not being stimulated. Sometimes it happens when I am in a stressful circumstance. I have also experienced it while exercising. Is this some sort of signal that I will be a premature ejaculator? Should I worry about this?
t's difficult to say what could be causing your episodes of spontaneous ejaculation. Some men report spontaneous ejaculation in the midst of stressful circumstances, as has sometimes happened to you. Some researchers believe this could be the body's way of relaxing a person.
Spontaneous ejaculation is also sometimes a side effect of anti-depressants. While it isn't as common as some other sexual side effects (like delayed orgasm), it certainly has been documented as a side effect that has been experienced by some men. If you're taking an anti-depressant, then you might talk with your health care provider about it if this bothers you as there may be another medication that you could try.
If you feel this is mainly occurring in stressful situations, you might consider exploring various means of stress reduction or promoting relaxation. Colleges and universities often offer stress prevention and management classes through health education departments or through the campus health center. You might be able to use some stress reduction techniques (e.g. deep breaths, visualization, etc) to relax in stressful situations. Here at IU, Health and Wellness Education (855-7338) at the Health Center is a fantastic resource for information about stress prevention and reduction. They even offer affordable massage therapy services. You might even consider returning to masturbation either regularly or just prior to stressful situations to see if that is helpful or not. You didn't mention why it is that you "quit" masturbating a year ago, but if you're curious about masturbation, you might be interested in a recently published book that looks at masturbation from a wide range of perspectives (medicine, psychology, religion, folklore, comics, popular media, anthropology, sociology, literature, etc) called "The Big Book of Masturbation" by Martha Cornog.
Also, spontaneous ejaculation is not necessarily a sign that you will experience premature ejaculation during sex with a partner. That said, many men (particularly men who are young or just beginning sexual experiences, or those who are becoming sexually active after a period of time without activity) do ejaculate more quickly than they would like to. Some estimate that as many as one-third of men might experience issues related to premature ejaculation.
If you feel this is mainly occurring in stressful situations, you might consider exploring various means of stress reduction or promoting relaxation. Colleges and universities often offer stress prevention and management classes through health education departments or through the campus health center. You might be able to use some stress reduction techniques (e.g. deep breaths, visualization, etc) to relax in stressful situations. Here at IU, Health and Wellness Education (855-
Also, spontaneous ejaculation is not necessarily a sign that you will experience premature ejaculation during sex with a partner. That said, many men (particularly men who are young or just beginning sexual experiences, or those who are becoming sexually active after a period of time without activity) do ejaculate more quickly than they would like to. Some estimate that as many as one-
My boyfriend and I attempted to have sex last night for the first time (note the use of the word "attempted.") I've had two partners before him, and I'm his first. For lack of a better term, he couldn't "get it in" after several attempts. He had an erection until that time. He finally gave up and said "I failed." So, I have several questions: How do I let him know that he didn't "fail" and keep him from having the same insecurities the next time we try? Second, does this happen often to most couples their first time and how do you "succeed"?
The 'first time' can be an anxious experience for anyone. Your boyfriend may be worried about doing it 'right,' pleasing you or being a good partner, or just not sure about the mechanics of intercourse. The pressure of performance can easily soften a man's erection and is very common, in spite of the media hype.
That said, there is hope, and lots of it, especially given your willingness to talk with your boyfriend. Half the battle is being able to talk about sex when problems arise (excuse the pun), and not getting freaked out. I don't know how long you've been with your partner, or how comfortable it is for you two to be sexual together. I don't mean having intercourse, I mean holding, touching, rubbing, being naked, kissing, talking, focusing on other kinds of lovemaking. Take a break from intercourse for now. Let him know what pleases you and get to know what he likes. Take your time. If you plan to use a condom (hint, hint), bring it into your sex life before you try intercourse again. When you're feeling comfortable and ready for intercourse, you may find that you being on top, and helping to guide his penis into your vagina, may work well.
That said, there is hope, and lots of it, especially given your willingness to talk with your boyfriend. Half the battle is being able to talk about sex when problems arise (excuse the pun), and not getting freaked out. I don't know how long you've been with your partner, or how comfortable it is for you two to be sexual together. I don't mean having intercourse, I mean holding, touching, rubbing, being naked, kissing, talking, focusing on other kinds of lovemaking. Take a break from intercourse for now. Let him know what pleases you and get to know what he likes. Take your time. If you plan to use a condom (hint, hint), bring it into your sex life before you try intercourse again. When you're feeling comfortable and ready for intercourse, you may find that you being on top, and helping to guide his penis into your vagina, may work well.
Just recently, my erection seems to disappear during sex, leaving neither me or my partner satisfied. It is fine at the beginning, but I cannot seem to make it last more than a few minutes regardless of the stimulation that I am receiving. What can I do?
Most men experience problems with their erections at some point in their lives. However, the causes are so individual that it's difficult to give you a reason why this might be happening to you (e.g. medical condition, prescription drugs you might be taking, stress, etc).
Most men experience problems with their erections at some point in their lives. However, the causes are so individual that it's difficult to give you a reason why this might be happening to you (e.g. medical condition, prescription drugs you might be taking, stress, etc).
I'm having a problem. I am deeply in love with my g/f who I have been with for 6 months. I have only had sex a couple of times. I have never had sex with her and want too really bad. We have tried many times in missionary style and for some reason I can't get my dick in her vagina. Sometimes I haven't been erect, but alot of times I have. I just can't get it in her. I want to have sex with her so bad. She wants it and often complains that I can't have sex with her. It would bring us so much closer if we could share this experience with her. I have only had sex twice and am obviously very innexperianced. My g/f on the other hand has had sex many times and is very experienced. I feel so bad b/c I want to have sex with her not only for me, but for her cause I know she wants it soo bad. It might be psychological the problem I'm having but I duno. I get nervous whenever I try now and sort of feel like I'm under pressure. I just want to have sex with her and was wondering if you could give me any advice. The two times I have had sex I was on the bottom.
It's impossible for me to tell exactly what's keeping you from penetrating your girlfriend, but I can think of a couple of possibilities, and I can also offer some suggestions of how to overcome this problem. First of all, it is normal to be nervous about having sex if you're new at it! For men, having intercourse requires that your penis be fully erect in order to be able to penetrate your partner, and that's a lot of pressure for a penis that's spent most of its life with no one to please but its owner! If the erection isn't there, then you feel bad, which only makes it more difficult to get more aroused. Sex is a great opportunity to learn about your partner both physically and emotionally. At its best, sex can be a bonding experience that brings people as close together as they can be. But if it's a tense and unpleasant experience where neither person feels fulfilled, then something is going on and it's important to step back and remember that it's supposed to be a GOOD thing in your relationship. If it's gotten to the point where your relationship is at risk because you haven't yet had penile-vaginal penetration, it seems to me the relationship has lost track of what's really important: each of you enjoying each other's bodies and enjoying being together intimately.
So the first thing to do is to back off of intercourse! Both you and your partner need to let go of the idea of intercourse so that there is no demand. The more you're required to have an erection, the more difficult it will be, and when you stop needing the erection, it will happen just fine.
Another aspect of this is that vaginas can be complicated things, and it takes practice to be able to put a penis inside one. They're not just straight slots built to the exact dimensions of a penis. They're potential spaces, with a ring of muscle at the entrance and walls of erectile tissue leading to the cervix. And they're at an angle, too, which has to be accounted for when you're penetrating.
So I recommend that while you and your girlfriend are not having intercourse, spend lots of time learning about this angle, about the muscles around the outer third of the vagina, and about everything else to do with your partner's genitals. In fact, let her explore you too! If it's all about her, then SHE might start to feel pressured. Make sure you stay balanced, paying equal attention to both partners.
When you feel ready to have intercourse, wait until you're both extremely aroused - not necessarily on the verge of orgasm, but very, very aroused - let her be on top just so your body can learn that your penis actually does fit inside her and that it's possible for it to get in. Then after just a few minutes, withdraw and shift positions so that you're on top. Now you know that you can penetrate her. Move around a little, enjoy yourselves. Then shift positions again.
It's important to remember that your goal here is NOT orgasm, it's just exploration of each other's bodies. Enjoy and learn, without any pressure or demand for anything to happen next. If you lose your erection, or she stops being aroused, stop and do something else for a while.
Every guy's penis is capable of penetrating a vagina - they're built for it. It will take practice, but you'll get there. Encourage your girlfriend to be patient with you and refocus on enjoying the pleasure you get from each other's bodies.
So the first thing to do is to back off of intercourse! Both you and your partner need to let go of the idea of intercourse so that there is no demand. The more you're required to have an erection, the more difficult it will be, and when you stop needing the erection, it will happen just fine.
Another aspect of this is that vaginas can be complicated things, and it takes practice to be able to put a penis inside one. They're not just straight slots built to the exact dimensions of a penis. They're potential spaces, with a ring of muscle at the entrance and walls of erectile tissue leading to the cervix. And they're at an angle, too, which has to be accounted for when you're penetrating.
So I recommend that while you and your girlfriend are not having intercourse, spend lots of time learning about this angle, about the muscles around the outer third of the vagina, and about everything else to do with your partner's genitals. In fact, let her explore you too! If it's all about her, then SHE might start to feel pressured. Make sure you stay balanced, paying equal attention to both partners.
When you feel ready to have intercourse, wait until you're both extremely aroused -
It's important to remember that your goal here is NOT orgasm, it's just exploration of each other's bodies. Enjoy and learn, without any pressure or demand for anything to happen next. If you lose your erection, or she stops being aroused, stop and do something else for a while.
Every guy's penis is capable of penetrating a vagina -
My girlfriend and I sometimes engage in sexual activity more than once a day. At times, I find that after 2 or even 1 activity in which I reach climax, I have trouble maintaining an erection the next time around. It bothers me because I can't perform and it bothers her because I can't convince her that it has nothing to do with anything she's doing or not doing. This has occurred as much as 20 hours after the last sexual act. Is there anything I can do to correct this?
It is normal to have more difficulty in attaining or maintaining an erection after an orgasm. Most men find it impossible to have an erection very soon after an orgasm.
The period of time it takes to regain your arousal - your "refractory period" - is the length of time your body requires between orgasms. This period is largely predetermined by genetics, and it is affected by your age - the older you get, the longer it gets.
There isn't much you can do to change your refractory period. Assure yourself and your girlfriend that your refractory period is a built in part of your biology that has nothing to do with how interested you are in sex with her. But there certainly are ways to be sexual without having an erection!
While you do need an erection in order to penetrate someone with your penis, there are lots of other things with which you can penetrate your partner - fingers, tongue, toys - and there are lots of things you can do sexually that don't involve penetration of any kind. In particular, bear in mind that penetration is not the primary way that most women are sexually stimulated. The clitoris (the female's primary sex organ) is not usually well stimulated by penile-vaginal penetration. You can give your partner more direct stimulation with manual or oral contact.
If you feel a demand to "perform" by getting an erection, that demand will only make it more difficult to get an erection. The more relaxed you and your girlfriend feel about whether or not you have an erection, the easier it will be.
So relax, be creative, and enjoy exploring each other's bodies.
The period of time it takes to regain your arousal -
There isn't much you can do to change your refractory period. Assure yourself and your girlfriend that your refractory period is a built in part of your biology that has nothing to do with how interested you are in sex with her. But there certainly are ways to be sexual without having an erection!
While you do need an erection in order to penetrate someone with your penis, there are lots of other things with which you can penetrate your partner -
If you feel a demand to "perform" by getting an erection, that demand will only make it more difficult to get an erection. The more relaxed you and your girlfriend feel about whether or not you have an erection, the easier it will be.
So relax, be creative, and enjoy exploring each other's bodies.
I'm wondering about something called "prostate massages" - what it is, how to do them, any advice on them. And if they're harmful in any way!
Prostate massage is exactly what it sounds like - manipulation of the prostate. The prostate is a gland in the male body that does a couple of things. One thing it does is swell during sexual arousal and obstructs the urinary tract, to help prevent urination during sexual arousal and ejaculation. You can stimulate the prostate two ways, internally or externally. To find the prostate externally, press against the area of skin between the scrotum and the anus. Pressing hard against that spot, you'll feel an internal sensation unlike penile sexual arousal, but intense. It's easiest to find when you are already sexually aroused, because the prostate swells with sexual arousal.
To find the prostate internally, insert a small object - like a finger or toy - in your anus about two or three inches. Be sure to use plenty of lubrication like KY or Astroglide to help prevent tearing of the delicate tissue around the anus, and wash your hands before and after anal contact, to reduce the risk of any kind of infection. You can feel the prostate through the anterior (front) wall of the anus. Again, firm pressure works best, and it's easier if you're already sexually aroused. This may be more difficult than finding it externally, particularly on yourself.
Once you've found your prostate, you can experiment with what sort of caresses feel best. Try a variety of speeds and pressures and see how it changes the sensations. For some people it is very stimulating, for others it's neutral, and some people may find it is painful.
There are no negative effects directly related to prostate massage. Some people argue that prostate massage is helpful in preventing or healing diseases of the prostate, but that's debatable. It can be extremely pleasant, and can add variety to your sexual repertoire. As long as you're gentle around the anus, you should be fine.
Prostate massage is exactly what it sounds like -
To find the prostate internally, insert a small object -
Once you've found your prostate, you can experiment with what sort of caresses feel best. Try a variety of speeds and pressures and see how it changes the sensations. For some people it is very stimulating, for others it's neutral, and some people may find it is painful.
There are no negative effects directly related to prostate massage. Some people argue that prostate massage is helpful in preventing or healing diseases of the prostate, but that's debatable. It can be extremely pleasant, and can add variety to your sexual repertoire. As long as you're gentle around the anus, you should be fine.
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